June 20, 2020

I haven’t been keeping up with this log so I’m less than precise than I should be in tracking her behavior changes. I can only be general, or guess.
I’m going to say it’s been maybe two of the last three nights that she’s confused me with my sister. AKA: not known me.
In the first instance, maybe a couple of days ago, I was in the kitchen cleaning up after dinner and she came in and asked, “Is (insert my name) out walking the dog?”
“No,” I replied, “I’m right here.”
“Oh, no, I meant (insert my sister’s name).”
“No, the dog is in your room sleeping. (My sister) is at home.”
She said something about being confused and not knowing why she said that. Of course I let it go and changed the subject.
Tonight she asked where I was. I said, right here, and changed the subject. (The easiest way I’ve found to do this is to ask her a question. That gets her mind off of whatever is confusing her.) This mostly works. She was able, nonetheless, to ask who lives here.
I read somewhere that it’s best to keep them active during sundown, and I try to do this, but she still is able to get confused about who lives here and who is supposed to be here. She’s always saying things like, there are so many people in and out of here all the time I keep expecting them to be here. Thing is, there’s never anyone here. It’s always just her, me, and my dog.
I kind of wonder if she’s getting worse. This afternoon we were in the car using GPS to get to a park we’d never visited before. The GPS voice is female. I don’t remember what prompted this but mom remarked: “I’m not used to this woman’s voice, I’m so used to hearing a man, it’s funny.” There’s always been a woman directing us. It’s never been a man’s voice. Do you think she was hiding her confusion? Maybe she was trying to hide the fact that she didn’t remember the GPS lady’s voice.
Anyway, all is well, basically. She’s super grateful for little things like me pouring her pills every week and making lunch and dinner everyday. She isn’t violent or mean. She sleeps a lot. She gets on my nerves because she wants to be with me all the time and I have to entertain her all the time/tell her what to do: you have laundry, would you like to vacuum or clean the bathroom, do you want to get in the pool? She’s really heavily dependent on me, which can grate on my nerves a bit. Oh, and she nags! “The bird feeders are empty. Have you see that big weed in the garden? This carpet really needs to be vacuumed.” And she’s obsessed with whether or not the plants have been watered. Makes me nuts. I can only do one thing at a time, and she’s so passive aggressive about it! Otherwise she’s super easy to take care of most of the time and I’m really lucky she’s so easy to get along with and patient about me sleeping in in the mornings and taking naps when needed.

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