June 13, 2020

I took my dog for a late evening walk, returning home just before dark. Mom was on the couch and the house was dark. I asked her if she was okay, was she sick, and she said she was fine, just tired. I asked if she was going to bed and she replied, “I think I’m already in bed.” I said, “Oh, are you sleeping there tonight?” She was silent for maybe a minute and asked, “Where do I normally sleep?” I said, “Your bedroom.” She’d forgotten. She actually said, “Oh, I forgot about that place.”
That was a first.
I think this is just another example of sundowning. She was tired. It was dark in the house and almost dark outside. I may have woken her up by making noise coming in the door. She got confused because her brain was too tired to process things.
Otherwise it was a usual day of her forgetting something seconds after I’ve told her: Where are we going? What are we doing? What are we going to do now? Over and over again. I have to remind myself that she doesn’t remember asking me those same questions seconds ago. Although, I think she sometimes knows the answer when she asks and this is her passive-agressive way of checking me. She’s always been good at passive-agressive behavior. She taught me well and I had to make a concerted effort to break myself of the habit/routine/unconscious choice, whatever you call it.

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